The house rules, in short

1. Let it happen naturally. Whatever connection forms (friendship or more), it should be mutual. No unsolicited DMs.
2. Consent always. No photographing, filming, or sharing anyone's details without their explicit consent.
3. RSVP is a commitment. If you can't make it, tell us. Flaking wastes a seat someone else wanted.
4. Be respectful. No harassment, bigotry, or aggressive behaviour — ever.
5. Report in confidence. Message the admin privately about anything off. It stays between us.
6. Verification stays. No inviting strangers, no sharing the invite link, no bringing plus-ones without asking.

Three strikes for minor breaches, or immediate removal for a serious one. One early, firm removal keeps the tone right for years.